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( It begins with an expression of interest email )
Kate and I have always wanted a family. When we first met (through roleplaying Law and Order SVU) we had our characters fall in love, and over a period of time, decide to have a baby. We stopped playing that thread after a few months... because we saw ourselves playing out our life. Well, what we wanted our life to be.
Throughout our three year relationship, the end game of finally being together in Australia with a family including us and two children pervaded our life plan. It was always a far off, one day type of deal.
The fact is... if Kate and I had been in close proximity geographically from day one... we would have at least one baby already. We both want a family. We want to have our own little unit in a house with a swing set in the back yard.
When I moved here, I started talking about it more, and the conversation usually went, "Two or three more years and we can do that. No need to rush things."
About two weeks ago, Kate started having dreams about having babies. Always in a different situation, but still... there was a baby. We started talking quite seriously about all of this.
Obviously, this is something that takes a metric ass ton of planning. We can't accidentally have a family. So, we starting thinking harder about it.
Now, we know we want a family. I will be a resident (hopefully) in November 2011. Our original plan was to get me residency, take about six months to get ourselves together, then go to the states for about five weeks and sightsee as a committed (with rings) couple and go to Disney World, see family, etc.
The plan now... which is rough, is that we might start trying in about 10 months. We need to find a donor. We hope it will be Jason.
When I get residency (having a child together will help immensely) we can go home (perhaps with the jellybean - I'm calling the baby that right now - if we have him/her by then) and do Disney. I don't know.
It's all exciting and terrifying. I don't want to be a mother like my mother was. I want to be better than her. I want to make sure our jellybeans have everything they need and want (within reason, lol) and two mommies who love them more than anything. I want them to never know what bill collectors are like, and to enjoy colouring, and to like chicken nuggets.
I hope this goes well. I hope Jason says yes. I hope I don't puke all over the table at dinner or spill my drink on him.
I'm ready to have a family with Kate. I love her more than anything. I know she is the only person I want to be with forever. I've never had a moment of doubt.
Kate and I have always wanted a family. When we first met (through roleplaying Law and Order SVU) we had our characters fall in love, and over a period of time, decide to have a baby. We stopped playing that thread after a few months... because we saw ourselves playing out our life. Well, what we wanted our life to be.
Throughout our three year relationship, the end game of finally being together in Australia with a family including us and two children pervaded our life plan. It was always a far off, one day type of deal.
The fact is... if Kate and I had been in close proximity geographically from day one... we would have at least one baby already. We both want a family. We want to have our own little unit in a house with a swing set in the back yard.
When I moved here, I started talking about it more, and the conversation usually went, "Two or three more years and we can do that. No need to rush things."
About two weeks ago, Kate started having dreams about having babies. Always in a different situation, but still... there was a baby. We started talking quite seriously about all of this.
Obviously, this is something that takes a metric ass ton of planning. We can't accidentally have a family. So, we starting thinking harder about it.
Now, we know we want a family. I will be a resident (hopefully) in November 2011. Our original plan was to get me residency, take about six months to get ourselves together, then go to the states for about five weeks and sightsee as a committed (with rings) couple and go to Disney World, see family, etc.
The plan now... which is rough, is that we might start trying in about 10 months. We need to find a donor. We hope it will be Jason.
When I get residency (having a child together will help immensely) we can go home (perhaps with the jellybean - I'm calling the baby that right now - if we have him/her by then) and do Disney. I don't know.
It's all exciting and terrifying. I don't want to be a mother like my mother was. I want to be better than her. I want to make sure our jellybeans have everything they need and want (within reason, lol) and two mommies who love them more than anything. I want them to never know what bill collectors are like, and to enjoy colouring, and to like chicken nuggets.
I hope this goes well. I hope Jason says yes. I hope I don't puke all over the table at dinner or spill my drink on him.
I'm ready to have a family with Kate. I love her more than anything. I know she is the only person I want to be with forever. I've never had a moment of doubt.